Welcome to Season Three of “The Courage to Identify” podcast with your host, Sharon Angel. Today, we’re diving into a topic that plagues many young South Asian girls—the question of “when are you getting married?” Let’s explore the historical context and the modern-day challenges associated with this seemingly innocent inquiry.
In the past, girls were married off at a very young age, their identity intertwined with their spouse’s and the responsibilities of homemaking and child-rearing. However, times have changed, and so have the expectations placed on women. Today, women are encouraged to pursue education, careers, and personal growth, leading to a shift in their roles and priorities.
Religion, too, plays a significant role in shaping perceptions of marriage. While some religious leaders guide young women with wisdom and support, others may resort to manipulation, imposing unnecessary pressure to marry or condemning singleness as a curse.
Parents, who want the best for their children, often bear the burden of societal expectations. They may feel compelled to find a suitable partner quickly, even if it means compromising their child’s wishes. Conversely, some parents take a more thoughtful approach, recognizing that marriage is a lifelong commitment and should not be rushed.
Furthermore, today’s young women are often exploring their identities and seeking answers to essential questions about their desires, likes, dislikes, and future aspirations. This journey of self-discovery is critical for growth, but societal pressures can hinder their progress.
It is crucial to consider whether young men, the potential partners, are also ready for marriage and can meet the expectations placed on them. Marriage is a shared commitment, and both parties must be prepared for the journey ahead.
In conclusion, the question of “when are you getting married” carries various pressures—cultural, religious, familial, and personal. It’s important for society to evolve with the changing times and support young women on their paths of self-discovery. Marriage should be a conscious, well-informed decision, not a rushed impulse.
If you’re a young woman contemplating marriage, take your time, explore, and discover who you are and what you want in life. Don’t let societal pressures dictate your choices. Remember, this is your journey, and you have the courage to identify what’s best for you.
